So… this is the first time I’ve tried doing a blog in two parts – but I’m thinking there might be some of you who’d enjoy getting to experience first hand a taste of what I do when I’m meeting with someone one on one helping her learn how to disciple others. I only wish I could be sitting on the couch with you doing this in person! :0)
To get the full benefit of this, if you haven’t yet read and done part one, go check it out and after reading through Luke 11:1-13 create a chart and answer the three questions:
- What can you learn about discipling from this interaction between Jesus and His disciples?
- For each observation, consider: Why do you think Jesus did this?
- How could you apply this when you are discipling the women you meet with?
There really is a ton to be learned from this passage! Here are a few things that stood out to me!
1. THE VALUE OF MODELING
Note this entire discourse begins with Jesus praying. I cannot stress how vital modeling is in discipleship – it’s not just what you say! What you do has a much greater impact! Now Jesus wasn’t doing this just to model for the disciples, but as he prayed, did it ever capture their attention! As we look at the Scriptures we see it was a way of life for him. Don’t just meet one on one with someone, give them opportunity to see you live out your relationship with the Lord in your daily life.
2. CAPITALIZE ON CURIOSITY
And note this discussion was prompted by the disciples. They observed Jesus doing this as well as John teaching his disciples and they were curious. People learn things much better when it’s something they are interested in and want to learn. That’s not to say there aren’t times when it’s important to cover things they may not have thought about before. But when possible, taking time to discover what someone is curious about and focusing there can really increase the impact of the lesson.
3. KEEP IT SIMPLE & ORGANIZED
Note how Jesus begins giving them something simple and organized, a model they can easily remember. This is so impactful. This doesn’t include everything Jesus ever taught on prayer. He didn’t feel like he had to cram all that could be learned into one lesson! But is it ever a great way to start!
This is why I love to use the Look, Listen, Live it out model for teaching someone how to have a quiet time. Not only is it easy for them to remember the next day, but it’s also easy for them to remember so they can pass it on to someone else!
There’s a fascinating book called Making Things Stick that explores how to present information in ways people will remember. This book stresses, keeping things simple and organized can really help! As my friend Dave Hawes says, “The more organized something is, the more passonable it is.” and not just from you to her, but also for her to pass onto others!!!
For example I was doing a sexual purity video and had nine practical suggestions for how people who are struggling can experience victory in this area of life. Who can remember nine suggestions?! So I asked the Lord if He’d give me an idea for how to communicate this in a way that would stick and He brought to mind the three parts of the briar: roots, stem, and flower. So using a large picture of a briar, I shared three suggestions for each of the three parts! Did that ever stick! (no pun intended! :0)
4. UTILIZE REPETITION & REVIEW
Note Luke 11 wasn’t the only time the Lord taught the disciples about prayer. In Matthew 6:5-14 we see the Lord teaching the disciples to pray using this model again. Repetition is so valuable! Don’t just teach something once and then move on, assuming she got it. Periodically coming back to go over something, teaching it in a bit of a different way can be so helpful!
Note in Luke 11 Jesus only teaches part of this model for prayer – in Matthew 6 we see an expanded version. But in Luke 11 Jesus spends more time talking about the parts He does present.
5. PROMOTE UNDERSTANDING
So first he teaches them part of a simple model, then he takes time to help them understand. He starts with the whole, then breaks it down focusing on one key part at a time.
And He seeks to help the disciples understand the character of who they are praying too as He does this. Just as in the Bible the main character is always God, so in your one on ones let Him be the focus.
And it’s important the one you’re meeting with understands what’s not being said, as well as what’s said. You want to try and anticipate ways the enemy might try to twist what you’re teaching and get her off track. For example, after Jesus instructs the disciples, “ask and it will be given to you,” He goes on to explain God only gives good gifts. So when you ask you will receive something, and it will be good! But you may not get exactly what you’re asking for!
Do you see how the enemy can have a heyday with this if someone is expecting to always get exactly what she asks for?
6. HIGHLIGHT A KEY APPLICATION IDEA
And then Jesus ends highlighting the best thing they can ever ask for and be given! Be sure to end your explanation highlighting what is most important and giving her ideas for how she can practically apply what you’ve just taught her in her daily life.
Note Jesus doesn’t exhaust them with a long dissertation on this subject. He briefly teaches them a simple model. Then explains what they need to know to get started and be motivated to start.
Now we don’t know what happened next. Scripture just gives us brief snapshots, so I’m going to take the liberty to add on two more things that I’ve observed from other passages of Scripture that help me finish well when I’m meeting with someone.
7. DO IT WITH THEM! (Luke 9:13-17)
I have found it so helpful to not just tell people how to do something, but when I take time during our time together to do it with them – that’s when it really sticks! This provides a great launch for getting them started!
For example, when sharing the Lord’s prayer with someone, I don’t just tell them about it, I pray through it with them! And not rotely – remember it’s a model, not just a verbatim prayer to pray! And as we pray through it, we take turns, with me going first, praying one phrase at a time, expanding it a bit to share what’s on our hearts that relates to each phrase.
8. GIVE AN ASSIGNMENT (Mark 6:7)
And then I end with an assignment such as, try praying through this model once a day for the next week (which is something I seek to do at the start of every day in my own life, right after I wake up each morning before I get out of bed and truly have found to be life changing!).
This is where the rubber meets the road – why you’re sharing this with them in the first place… so they’ll do it!
Incorporating anything new into one’s life rarely just happens! That’s why discipleship is so helpful in the first place! Be sure you consider not just what you’re going to tell them, but how to intentionally spur them on towards love and good deeds!
And as you do, can following Jesus’ example ever help!