I cannot stress enough the power of asking questions!
So many times when people discuss discipleship, the focus is on content, what you should be telling someone.
Once when my husband was observing someone starting to learn how to disciple he was shocked to find the “discipler” talked almost nonstop the entire time!
Please understand discipleship is not about dumping content! It is a partnership with the living God, joining in with what He is doing in the life of someone seeking to follow Him, helping them become transformed into His image as they “do” what the Lords wants them to.
It’s not about giving information as much as helping them show up for the surgery the Lord wants to do ~ but they will need to have an active part in this. Sometimes the Lord will use the content you share, but what transforms isn’t the hearing of content, but what they do with what they hear.
Someone who talks nonstop the entire time, simply is missing the boat and not understanding this process. Consider what Jesus taught in Matthew 7:24-27…
In what way were the wise and foolish builder the same?
They both heard the word.
The foolish builder may have enjoyed a quiet time every single day, attended church every Sunday, read multiple Christian books each week, and listened to sermons daily on his commute back and forth to work! He may even have been discipled one on one hearing great content each week! But according to Jesus it’s not about the hearing but what is done with it that makes the difference. The wise man did what He heard.
So discipleship isn’t just about making it possible for people to “hear” God’s truth, but primarily about helping them “do” what they hear from the Lord.
Yes, the Lord may lead you to share a tool or a passage or something that’s been of great help to you, but even then, to do anything with what’s been heard a person needs to process and figure out how it can make a difference in her life! And one of the best ways you can help someone process and determine how to apply is to ask questions!
What stands out to you from our discussion today?
Why did that stand out to you?
How might this make a difference in your life?
What might it look like for you to do that?
What could keep you from moving forward with this?
When do you think you could practically do this?
Is there anything in your life that needs to change so you’d have time for this?
How can I be praying for you?
People are much more likely to “do” something they’ve had a part in devising. Don’t just tell. Be sure to ask lots of questions to help them process, and then to narrow down specifically how they can “do” what’s been discussed!
Then, be sure to ask more questions the next time you meet ~
“How did it go applying what we talked about?!”
“Did you encounter any struggles or hindrances to doing this?”
“What did you learn from doing this?”
“What difference did it make in your life?”
Don’t just race onto the next topic!
Next time you’re meeting with someone, try to keep count of the number of questions you ask. Just make a small mark or dot on a page each time you ask one. You might be surprised at what you learn and how this simple exercise really can spur you on to ask more questions… and as you do, reveal how lifechanging and impactful this truly can be!